Wednesday, 28 December 2011

Beratkah Dugaan Itu?

Allah tidak membebankan seseorang melainkan apa yang terdaya olehnya. Ia mendapat pahala kebaikan yang di usahakannya, dan ia juga menanggung dosa kejahatan yang diusahakannya. (Mereka berdoa dan berkata): "Wahai Tuhan kami! Janganlah Engkau mengirakan kami salah jika kami lupa atau kami tersalah. Wahai Tuhan kami! janganlah Engkau bebankan kepada kami bebanan yang berat sebagaimana yang telah Engkau bebankan kepada orang-orang yang terdahulu daripada kami. Wahai Tuhan kami! Janganlah Engkau pikulkan kepada kami apa yang kami tidak terdaya memikulnya. Dan maafkanlah kesalahan kami, dan berilah rahmat kepada kami, dan beri Penolong kami oleh itu, tolonglah kami untuk mencapai kemenangan terhadap kaum-kaum yang kafir".

~renungan utk diri sendiri by Luvin Hanin~

Sunday, 4 December 2011

The Do's & Dont's of Modern Dating

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم


-explain about when u r looking 4 sum1 n wanna dating with him/her-

*The most important is once when u get him or her, plz don’t betray! It’s hurt! then, when both of u spent time together,plz put aside ur phone, ignore any call or sms from ur friend EXCEPT u have work to do n its ur family members make a call. U don’t know what ur couple thinks once u “asyik” with ur phone :)*

lets start okey :- We’re over a decade into a new century, and it’s obvious that dating isn’t the same “dinner and a movie”  game it used to be(i used to do it). We’re still figuring out how to make the language of love translate over the Internet, email, YM, and late-night messaging.

new rules of the dating game for modern singles :

DO talk to potential dates over the phone first

♥ You can get critical information about a person on the phone versus on email — his or her personality, the tone of voice, how trustworthy this person sounds. People’s comments flow out of their mouths more naturally when they’re speaking than on email, where you can think through things before you send them. If you can’t have a good 15- or 20-minute conversation on the phone, how on earth will you spend a two-hour date? If you don’t like what you hear, you can bow out. Your time is yours, there’s nothing wrong with that 

DON’T short-change your dates

♥ With so much going on in our lives these days ( cell phone going off in between), we get caught up in trying to do too much... and the same goes with dating. If you’re trying to fit in two or three dates a week, or coffee with one person and dinner with another, you’ll do your head in — and that’s not fair to you or your date. So, slow down! Make it your goal for each date that you’ll give the person a sincere chance instead of judging him or her like you’re speed-dating 

DO be honest about you what want upfront

♥ These days, the lines in the dating world are so blurred, it’s hard to know where you are and where you’re going. But just know that if you settle for something in the beginning of a relationship, you can’t go back. For instance, if instead of going on a dinner and a movie date you move into being friends with benefits, you’ve created a pattern that’s not likely to change. And if your date is seeing three other people when you first start dating, you’d better be OK with that three months later, because that’s the deal you signed on for. So, decide what you want at the very start — and don’t settle for less! 
DON’T over-text your dates

♥ If you sent a text message and he or she didn’t write back right away, don’t think: ‘Oh, maybe he or she didn’t get my message.’ Maybe .0001 of the time the message doesn’t go through, but the rest of the time, it’s pretty reliable. This person got your message. One text or email is really enough, or else you’ll look too needy. 
DO give your online profile a positive spin

♥ Honesty is great, but so is being positive. Your profile shouldn’t sound harsh or complaining in its tone. It’s possible to put a positive spin on truthful (but negative-sounding) things. You can tweak the phrasing of even the most neutral detail (like a dislike for working out) to make it sound positive by conveying the details of your character. For example, I helped one man who did not like to work out in order to cast a positive light on that trait by writing: ‘I much prefer to walk along the ocean than to walk on a treadmill going nowhere 

DON’T get talked into spilling your intimate secrets

♥ If someone asks you, ‘So, how many people have you dated?’ or ‘So, what’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done before?’ — resist the urge to answer! A person’s numbers count holds so much judgment. The ‘right’ number is different for everybody, and whether you’ve had a lot of partners or hardly any, it leads to all sorts of assumptions: that you’re promiscuous, you’re a prude, etc. So if your date asks, simply say: ‘I never kiss and tell.’ The other question can be handled the same way. Those nitty-gritty details can always come later!♥ 
DO go out on group dates to meet more people

It’s not just for high-schoolers anymore. More and more people are going out in groups for dinner or parties, and it’s a great way to meet people in a less-pressured environment. But if you meet someone you like, don’t wait until the end of the night to express it; he or she might leave early. So don’t be shy... take the initiative! Seek the person out, make contact, and don’t leave without that number.

DO use old-fashioned manners

♥ It may be a modern world, but a woman ultimately wants a man with old-fashioned manners, and a man ultimately wants to be that person for her. So men, pick a woman up for a date, take her to dinner, open the door for her. Don’t assume she won’t let you. Then, women: Let him open the door for you and tell him know how much you appreciate him taking you out, because most of my male clients say they don’t feel appreciated anymore. You can really win each other over with old-fashioned manners.

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